“Where he goes, you cannot follow,
for it is a place in the depths of darkness,
barely illuminated by the Spirit.
Someone once told you of this dark, barren wasteland, 
but you were not sure it really existed.
A black hole, 
a soundless century-long existence 
few ever return from, few can ever bare. 
You cry for him, his circumstance;
you suffer and anguish over his decided present and future,
but you cannot change it …
… and you must go on.”           
AND OTHER AWARDS · A love letter to victims in an inspirational book of hope and love. 
Discover the one thing that changes everything.
“This incredible book is a gift to every victim.”
Vicki Bourus, SC Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault former executive director


Not sure if it’s abuse? 
Patty Wain Smith understands that confusion, and she knows what it feels like to try everything in a relationship and have nothing work. She shows us what abuse looks like and a way to the other side—to peace, love, light, happiness, and to freedom—within the empowering embrace of A Letter to a Friend: The Story of Abuse in America.
The short, powerful read with clarity and hope …

Patty goes beyond self-help and documentaries in this letter of love. The conversation is intimate, affirming, and relatable for victims and those who want to know why it’s so hard to leave.

  • Gentle, powerful, and unspeakably honest—the perfect book for someone in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship or still healing from one.
  • Innovative narrative—the reader becomes part of the story and experiences that empowering victims integrates with the Christian faith. 

A Letter to a Friend: The Story of Abuse in America combines psychology, counseling, domestic violence, child development, and Christian principles with hope and love. There’s a bonus at the back: a link to an original song that helps the reader grieve—an essential part of recovery. Follow the journey of a survivor who grows stronger and wiser after accepting God’s gift, and discover the one thing that changes everything.


New Words Publishing, LLC

Each Time

Words | Music  Patty Wain Smith

A song to help the reader grieve—an essential part of recovery.